Thursday, April 9, 2009


Upon blog-hopping earlier, I ran across some pretty severe judgment in a rant, followed up by some bandwagon comments by friends. I am not going to go into any kind of detail, but I just wanted to say something about that.
It’s an opportunity for me to look inward. Who am I judging? Who have I given an unfair chance to? Okay, I’ve been harsh with Obama, and perhaps with “Nelly” from work, and others too. I truly, sincerely apologize. I have opinions and ‘takes’ on situations, which I’m sure I’ll continue to blog about. However, on a very raw note, after reading such a directly harsh judgment on this other blog, I feel this should be said: you just don’t know what kind of battle people are fighting. For what we perceive as potentially harmful, or abusive, ugly or dangerous, we need to consider the person behind the label we’re so quick to give. There are a million more facets to what makes a person than what we see and instantly judge.

Because I know this, it is my responsibility to make sure that the unlovable are loved, lest that judgment come down on me someday.

I’m SO grateful that the ONLY judge who matters is perfect, and exists where every aspect of me is taken into account before I’m seen as something other than what I deserve…


Joni said...

Rude!! I'm totally curious about what got you all fired up!!

You're totally right though, it's so easy to judge without really knowing what the other person is going through, thanks for the reminder!

Anonymous said...

It was so good to hear you say that. I struggle with that and am constantly having to remind myself to give others the benefit of the doubt. And I'm certainly in no position to judge. It's so easy to fall back into old bad habits.

skipper said...

I'm so proud of you! Judging others unfairly is a major part of the BPD that I struggle with every minute of every day. I know how difficult it is to fight this particular battle!
You're the best!

mommynolan said...

It's a lesson we all need to be reminded about over and over again! We just have not walked in their shoes. \

hat is one of the lessons I so vividly recall learning and seeing in John. With him it was the "famous" Jessica. I had a hard time not judging her after all she'd done. But for him it was easy.

Truly what matters is who you are today.

Not judging also means not holding grudges. Grudges are the result of judging and only serve to hold us down. They are weight we can relieve ourselves of without going on a diet--but the results feel every bit as good. Maybe I should write my own blog about this subject as I seem to have too much to say. Sorry!

Thanks for the reminder--I just got back from Walmart, shopping with Granny. I need to remember, if I am blessed I too will be 77 someday.

I love you, Mom

something very bright said...

Exactly. Well put.